The news that unprecedented numbers of same-sex couples declared their presence in the 2000 U.S. Census drew a fair amount of attention in the heterosexual media. This was a good opportunity to educate straight folks, but alas, who will educate their media?
One local gay man told The Herald-Times, "I think gay men are more interested in being in couples than they used to be ... I think, deep down, most gay men are romantics and living happily ever after is a goal for us as much as for anybody."
This quotation neatly expresses a widespread belief among many gay men today: that gay men did not form couples during the swinging 1970s, preferring an endless string of casual encounters to mature monogamy. AIDS sobered us and made us settle down, like lesbians (who in this myth are paragons of everlasting domesticity). What this has to do with "romance," I don't know. It sounds more like sadomasochism, where suffering purifies and uplifts the penitent, and it's an odd way to advertise the rewards of monogamy. But it just isn't true. (Luckily, other gay men quoted in the article knew better.)