After my boyfriend and I have sex, I am quickly ready for a second time. Unlike my boyfriend. He’s not ready even after four hours.
We tried doing it hours later, and he couldn’t get firm. He said he cannot ejaculate and there is nothing in him to come out. Can any food or exercise help us? I expect intercourse at least twice a day.
It sounds like your boyfriend, like many men, has a normal “refractory period,” which is the time between one ejaculation and the ability to have another. This is normal for men and nothing to make him feel bad about.
There is no evidence that changes to his diet or exercise will change his refractory period. If you want more sexual stimulation after the first time having sex, perhaps consider oral sex, vibrator use or finger stimulation together.
Or you can masturbate. Your sexual pleasure is not entirely your boyfriend’s responsibility. It is for you to explore as well.
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