Lets get sexy

Will someone please tell Christina Aguilera she needs to stop dressing like a two-dollar whore?\nOh, I forgot ... she's "empowered." My bad.\nTo this day, it's acceptable for a guy to sleep around, having as much sex as he can without emotion or personal regard, while a girl doing the same thing is considered a radical idea. Yet as we trudge through the new sexual revolution, it's becoming more and more common for sexuality to be used as a feminine advantage -- and it's not some under-the-table thing anymore. The idea of women being able to sexually conquer men, earning a few notches on their bedpost and proudly displaying them, is slowly becoming an accepted idea meant to level the playing field between the two sexes.\nBut is it the best idea?\nBy usurping the sexual upper-hand, women nullify the notion that they are the passive sex, waiting to be drunkenly whisked away into the nearest twin-bed for a sexual encounter that has about a 50 percent chance of being satisfying for them. Their body is no longer a property, but an asset they have total control over that they can use in any which way they please.\nNow speaking as a guy, I really can't complain. I love sex. Love, love, love, love, love sex. The uber-male part of me can't help but say to every woman, "Right on! Free yourself! Sleep around! You're empowered now! You want to use someone? Use me! I'm a guy! I don't care!"\nBut at the same time, that other sensitive, caring side of me has to step in. Are we all helping liberate ourselves or are we just fighting fire with fire, taking an eye for an eye in the bedroom?\nThere is the double standard our culture can't get over, where men blossom into studs and women degrade into sluts. I call Aguilera a whore with no remorse, but I pledge that I love sex in front of almost 30,000 potential readers and no one blinks an eye.\nCountless men lose their virginity at 14, start building a sexual repertoire, and it's just "the way it is." But does anyone really ever talk about the fact that the connotation of being a "stud" should be just as chastising as being labeled a "slut?" I know guys who have taken the virginity of more than five girls, and to them it was as trivial as any other cheap lay they've ever had -- and that's just messed up.\nSo where do we go from here? Do we start calling the boys sluts? Do we let the girls openly sleep around without remorse? Do we all just go Mormon?\nI really don't have the answer. But my friend Matt does.\n"We should just do away with the word stud. Anyone that has too much sex is a slut."\nHow much is too much? That's your call.\nMaybe it's time we stop going to extremes, flaunting our sexuality like it's nothing because it is something. It's those extremes forcing Christina Aguilera to look like a damn clown. It's those extremes concealing the reality that studs are really just sluts with penises. It's those extremes that don't tell us we can be sexually empowered, but we don't have to be sluts to do it. It's those extremes making us lose sight of what we really want.\nWe all long for that emotional connection, even if we decide to slut-out. We try to fill a void (no pun intended) of intimacy we all need, no matter how much we try to hide it. We can say, "Oh, I just want to sleep around," but really all we want is a warm body to call home.