Stressed? Aren't we all

Stress can be defined as the conflict between a desired situation and the reality of what actually is. For example, we experience stress when the desired situation is earning an 'A' on a research paper due tomorrow but the reality is that you have just started to read the necessary materials.\nStressors are built into the fabric of our culture. We live it, breathe it, create it and are surrounded by it all the time. As college students, stress is often a major component of our daily life. Between classes and assignments, friends and roommates, loved ones and lovers, family and colleagues, activities and eating, students experience ongoing angst of varying levels. Without proper attention these tensions can become overwhelming and produce myriad debilitating affects.\nThe question of how to approach stress, how to surmount it and how to address your life during times of tension (seemingly endless) is central to the college student's existence -- and it is of particular note to your mental and physical well-being. What outlets exist to handle pressures? Where do you go to discuss these issues, and do you really have time to discuss them? What do you do when it all seems to be too much?\nAcknowledging and understanding stress is key to finding the way to deal with the pressures and tensions of everyday life. Knowing that you are facing a challenge that is surmountable through action, activity or a necessary lack thereof (taking a real break) is something that everyone needs to know. You have to work with the stress rather than fight it. \nHere are a number of easy methods to release existing tension and be ready for the next wave:\n--Talk with a trusted friend or family member with good listening skills. \n--Talk with a professionally trained therapist who can help you learn more effective ways of managing stress and conflict.\n--Do physical exercise. This can free the mind up or change your viewpoint on the issues that are making life difficult. You can walk aimlessly or jog an appointed route. \n--Take a shower or bath. The warmth will loosen tension from the mind and relax the skin and muscles.\n--Try deep-breathing exercises. Stand up and take two steps behind a desk. Breathe deeply while raising your arms above your head. Breathe out and release your arms downward. Continue this until you feel the air filling your lungs and bringing added power.\nIn the coming weeks, this column will address some of the common stressors experienced by college students in daily life and how to deal with them. I will deal with issues such as academics, romantic relationships, family relationships, finances, roommates and health issues.