This guy and I were dry humping. I was just in my thong and he was in his boxers. There wasn’t any pre-cum on him, but I was wet just from myself.
Is there a chance I could get pregnant at all?
You didn’t mention if you’re on birth control or not. If you’re on the birth control pill, patch, shot or vaginal ring and are using it as directed by your doctor, then you likely wouldn’t even be ovulating. That’s how most hormonal birth control pills works — pretty interesting, eh?
If you’re not using birth control, then you may indeed have an egg available for fertilization, in which case we start wondering whether sperm were available.
Readers who have been through a quality sex education course may know that sperm are made in the testes. They mature in the epididymis (which are spiraly parts above the testes) and, when a man ejaculates, the sperm join the rest of the seminal fluids to form and make their way out of the body.
Sperm first have to travel through the vas deferens, and then they mix with fluid from the prostate gland, cowper’s glands (which make pre-ejaculatory fluids, or pre-cum) and seminal vesicles and leave the body as semen.
If “this guy” you were with was aroused and erect but didn’t have any fluids coming from his penis, then although he has sperm inside his body, it sounds like they stayed inside his body — or at least they did until he got home and masturbated or you two moved to other kinds of sex.
So even if you are not on birth control (and there was an egg), if there was no sperm near your vaginal opening, then there’s no chance of pregnancy. Plus, you both had on underwear! Sperm aren’t getting through his boxers and your thong, anyway.
If you’re not ready to become pregnant but are likely to find yourself being sexual in penis-vagina ways again soon, please consider talking with a doctor or nurse about birth control.
And if you’re concerned about sexually transmitted infections (STIs), then consider using condoms and/or steering clear of even dry humping until you know more about a partner’s STI status. STIs that are transmitted through genital-to-skin contact (like HPV genital warts and herpes) can pass from one person to another this way.
Kinsey Confidential is a collaboration of the IU School of Public Health and The Kinsey Institute. Dr. Debby Herbenick is an associate professor at IU and author of six books about sex including “The Coregasm Workout” and “Sex Made Easy.” Visit us at kinseyconfidential.org and follow us on Twitter at @DebbyHerbenick and @KinseyCon.
