Do some sexual surrogates have intercourse with their clients?
Yes, some do. It depends on what the sex therapist, client and surrogate have discussed and agreed on.
A surrogate is not a prostitute. Also, a surrogate is not at a client’s beck and call, willing to do anything or everything a client wishes for.
A professional sex surrogate typically works in consultation with a trained sex therapist.
The sex therapist describes to both the surrogate and the client what he or she recommends in terms of complementary sessions with the surrogate.
The experiences with the surrogate are, as mentioned, complementary to sex therapy and not a replacement for sex therapy.
A surrogate and client may engage in various kinds of touching, sex play or intercourse.
There are many different possibilities. Clients are usually encouraged to ask questions ahead of time or whenever the questions or concerns arise, as it’s also a common goal in therapy to improve comfort and confidence with communicating about sex.
Most states do not permit sex surrogate work and not all sex therapists — even in states where it’s legal — work with sex surrogates, but some do.
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