Let's kiss and make up

Two women gaze longingly into one another's eyes while slowly leaning their bodies toward each other. With a wisp of hair smoothed behind an ear and a gentle caress of a cheek, the women press their mouths together and kiss lusciously in between sporadic fits of giggles.\nIt was one of those close, intimate moments -- one meant only for the two kissers, and of course, a pack of enthralled college guys encircling them at a party. Had I known I would be attending such a sloppy event, I would have worn my boots to avoid the puddles of saliva on the floor which had dripped from the voyeurs' gaping mouths.\nAfter witnessing this phenomenon several times, a staple of college party entertainment, I have become increasingly baffled by the principle at its roots: Why do so many men fantasize about lesbians?\nTo single, heterosexual women around the world, this is a bit of an annoyance. Have we wasted our time at parties flirting with men when our chances of actually attracting one would have been increased if we had spent more time flirting with each other?\nOn AskMen.com, a woman, Vanessa Burton, attempts to shed light on the murky enigma in her column, "The Lesbian Fascination."\n"It's not that men are simply fascinated by lesbians," Burton said. "When a man watches two women, he needs to believe that he actually has a chance with them … that they are interested in men."\nIndeed, an imagination is a powerful thing, but why do men bother convincing themselves?\nThe results of a new study conducted in the United Kingdom are muddying the situation even more.\nAccording to a HealthScoutNews report released last week, researchers found that 85 percent of lesbian and bisexual women polled have had intercourse with men.\nI couldn't help visualizing a team of eager male professionals beginning the survey by asking, "So have you ever had or thought of having sex with one of us before?" How can men like the guys at the party avoid hoping to score when "science" is proving they have a chance?\nThe conclusions of the argument anger me because it doesn't seem to take lesbian sexual orientation seriously. Are they trying to say lesbians may enjoy other women, but at the end of the day, they need a big man to satisfy them? \nThis mentality hurts lesbians, but how does it hurt all women?\nBack at the party, some women on the outskirts grumbled about what they felt was an indecent act.\n"I know them," a voice rose among the bitter onlookers. "Those two just do it for the attention from guys. I saw them kissing at another party last night." \nForget about where the fantasy actually derives. After the immense stressing over why men are so infatuated with the idea of what the adult porn industry has endearingly named "girl-on-girl," the sad reality is the women protesters end up at odds with the women involved rather than the men watching at their expense.\nIt all comes down to cattiness. It seems to me women are more threatened by the pseudo-lesbians than actual lesbians because when hair-pulling comes to shove, these women are competition for men's attention.\nHave women learned nothing from this situation?\nAs my wise, male friend once said, "Women are beautiful, soft creatures, and with more of them, it's like … more softness."\nThough I may be abstracting his profundity, women have spent endless time being hard and judgmental to each other because we are consumed by our competitive nature. Whether a woman decides to kiss her roommates or sorority sisters for the pure entertainment of men or not, we could all be a little more attractive by accepting our differences and embracing our softer side: sisterhood.